The most powerful tool we have at our disposal is the power of choice. Almost everything that happens in our lives is the result of a choice that we have made. And for the things that happen in our lives that we didn’t choose to have happen – how we CHOOSE to respond to these events is still our choice.
Choice is everything. And what I’ve come to see is that a lot of folks don’t think they have a choice in their life. It is not until we investigate where their actions come from that we discover they actually DO have the power to choose.
We don’t always get to choose what happens in life, but we do get to choose how we respond to what happens. There is a BIG difference between reaction and response. Reaction is when something happens and we just react – without thinking. It’s like the animal in us takes over and wants to either fight or run. We react with defensiveness, judgment or shock. We react with anger or even hate. We react with disgust. We react with all kinds of emotions that don’t represent our highest nature.
I’ve come to believe that our journey is to first become aware of how we react and not make it wrong. To understand that we and everyone we know are doing the best that they can from their point of view. And we can investigate where these reactions come from. And slowly over time we begin to see that when things trigger us “out there” – there is a precious space in between something happening and our reaction. And in this space we now have a choice – a choice of how we want to respond.
To me, the ability to respond is far more powerful than unconscious reaction. This is respons-ibility is – the ability to respond. And in this space, where we can choose, lay our power.
What are we going to make this mean? And why? What’s the root of the trigger I’m having? What do I have to believe about life to have this reaction? And then what do I want to believe about life, what empowering perspective can I take that will allow me to see the lesson in this moment and then let it go?