How to be real with yourself.
1. Choose a goal, figure out what your vision is. What do you want to accomplish. (career, money, family)
2. Set some time aside to really think about your goals and be specific
3. Take stock- Figure out what you’re good at and what you could improve upon (honestly)
4. Be objective- Take the emotion out of it
5. Be specific- What have you accomplished, why did you do it. What would you like to accomplish
6. Keep things in perspective- So you haven’t won a Nobel prize yet… That okay. You’re only human, nobody should expect perfection!
7. Write things down- You can write in whatever makes you comfortable. Lists, notes, cartoons, drawings, maps, or collages.
8. Consider the good the bad, both
Strengths. What are you best at? What do you love doing and do just for the passion of it? What do others compliment you on or tell you you’re good at? Once you have these listed, consider how you can make them even better, or use them to your advantage.
Weaknesses. What do you dislike? What doesn’t work too well for you? Focusing on the negative can put things into perspective. Once you have listed your weaknesses, you can choose whether to try to improve upon these areas or let them go. If it matters that you’re not a strong swimmer, make plans to improve. If not, at least you know your limitations and can stay in the shallow end of the pool.
Opportunities. These may go hand in hand with your strengths. At a personal level, an opportunity isn’t just the potential to make money. Rather, consider where you could make a difference, satisfy your own needs (for instance, to create), or simply improve yourself. Opportunities could be based on how you could use your strengths or how you could improve upon your weaknesses.
Threats. What could undermine those opportunities, derail your hopes or sidetrack your success, whatever you define those to be? The purpose for listing these is twofold. First, identifying them allows you to see them more clearly. The known is less threatening than the unknown. Second, it allows you to address those risks. Some risks are beyond our control, but many can be lessened or at least planned for.
9. Talk to people about it. If you say it out loud it will hold you accountable!
10. Get an accountability partner. Someone who will be REAL with you
11. Write a list down for what you would like to do for next 5, 10 years.
12. Commit to making a change- Its your life, you decide what you want
13. Don’t beat around the bush- tell yourself the truth even if the truth is bad
14. Set goals
16. Take action- Put your plan in motion!